Feel warmer

Are people colder in western cultures? Yes. Proof? Kids leave parents early; Relatives are not as eager to meet with each other as in Iran; There is much less time spent on talking and chatting with each other in western countries.

But is this “coldness” disease has been evolved only in western societies? Not really. I have witnessed among my families, people tend to spend time with relatives less and less compared to when I was younger. Shall I blame again this damn westernization, or better say, modernization, as the main culprit for spreading this coldness disease into our friendly warm societies? Maybe.

In the era, when kids can easily access the best answers to their questions on the modernization's great gift of internet, the survival aspect of the need to spend longer time with parents is much reduced. Moms used to call up uncles, other relatives, and friends more frequently partially because they knew no better way of acquiring information on how to cope with the rare flu symptoms they would come up with in their beloved little baby. And of course, when one initiates a talk to his/her friend merely to seek some urgent advices, there is whole lot of less important side-information about here-and-there naturally swapped between them making the time fun and enjoyable too. This episode in no different from the one when one come to his/her PC, hitting on the good-looking “e” icon just to quickly check weather cast of the day and find his/herself, one hour later, still staring at explorer, deeply entertained with ten opened pages of different colors.


The need for fun in human life is unquestionable. Most human prefer a short, but full of fun life to the long painful one. This preference is true but only in human semantic cognition; in most species’ behavior, fun usually comes just next to the need for accessing vital information which guarantees our survival in possible dangers in the future.


So, who is the main culprit in making us colder in the new era? The answer lies in the way our fundamental information is accessible nowadays. This is the fruit of modernization which offers us knowledge, but may not necessarily guarantee the fun part of life. Those of us who appreciate knowledge may have less difficulty standing new eras. Or you may even re-define the concept of “coldness” in human relationships by excluding the cases similar to when your friend prefers to surf 3 hours of his day in facebook, while turning down your offer of having a coffee together. You should start appreciating that she/he has gained knowledge several times better and more accurate than if he had chosen to chat with an old friend whom he/she meets regularly, providing that we fairly assume at least 10 percent out of the three hours facebooking has linked him/her to some useful information on the net. And the other 90 percent? Yes! All were certainly fun time by e-hugging friends on facebook! haha